The Self

Other key aspects of the IFS and PIT Model’s that differentiates them from other models. This is the belief that, in addition to these parts, everyone at their core has a self, containing many crucial leadership qualities such as perspective, confidence, compassion, and acceptance. Richard Schwartz states that working with hundreds of clients for more than two decades, some of whom were severely abused and show severe symptoms, has convinced him that everyone has this healthy and healing Self even though many people initially have little access to it. When working with an individual, the goal of IFS is to differentiate this Self from the parts, thereby releasing its resources. When the individual is in the state of Self, we can work together to help the parts out of their extreme roles.

Anything that takes us away from what I call my true self, authentic self, prevents us from truly being present so we control self, adapt distract, avoid anything to take care of the part that feels too much or is uncomfortable. This is an addictive process or repetition we must take care of ourselves, a habit, some worse than others. I was always curious to know why I did this and set about reflecting and changing through self-awareness and understanding of the root of this symptom by addressing the cause. Like the root of anger, we do not simply become angry it has roots like a tree. Like shame, we carry or take this on board like a sponge feeling less than, unworthy, not good enough basically not strong enough or mature enough to understand and deal with it.